Nancy Pederson

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Posted by Jalynn on May 13, 2011 in Nancy Pederson, Dating and Life, News & Events, Volume 1 Newsletter | 0 comments

 

The Importance of Honesty

 

    Q:  “I discovered someone I met on an Internet dating service lied on his profile, and we have another date scheduled.  Should I still go out with him?  Should I call him on the lie?”

    A:  Why would you even think about going out with a guy after finding out he’s a liar?  People tell us all the time who they are, and many of us choose to not listen.  Women are especially apt to do this because they feel that they can change a man.  But girls, you can’t change a person’s dishonest character any more than you can change the diamonds on a rattlesnake.

    If you’re still considering dating this guy, ask yourself why you feel so unworthy that you’ve got to date him or no one.  Is he really the best you can do?

    So what if he’s a hottie.  There are lots of con artists in the world and they come in all sizes, shapes and pretty colors.  Do you really want one of them in your life?

    If a man lies to you in the beginning and you don’t call him on it, then you’re giving him permission to lie to you at every opportunity, and that’s a dangerous and disturbing precedent to base a relationship on.

    If honesty is important to you, I wouldn’t even take time to negotiate.  I would kick him to the curb with a smile on my face and move on.  You deserve so much more!

Nancy Pederson, Dating and Life Coach

    Nancy is a Doctor of Chiropractic and consultant in nutrition, wellness and anti-aging technologies.  In terms of dating savvy, Nancy is the dean of dating with an answer for everything.  She can be reached at AskNancyDateCamp@hotmail.com.